Update [2005-7-7 13:59:9 by shirlstars]: Today’s outrage in London has doubled my personal sense of anger and rage beyond rage. Will it never stop? If I was heartbroken when I wrote this last evening I am that much more so today. But I am so totally angry right now it is a good thing I am in the wild outback of small town Idaho. I have an overwhelming desire to stand in front of Bush and Blair and spit in their faces. If there is karma, let it come forth now and smite these two on the spot. We can add to the numbers below the dead, torn apart and wounded in London.
Yep, I am having one of those days. We all have them from time to time, some of us more often than others, but we all know what it’s like to have one of those days.
This is going to be a rant, but I don’t think I can maintain the level of anger that is required to rant properly. That doesn’t mean there isn’t anger, it just means I am too overcome with the magnitude of it all to sustain just anger at the expense of all the other emotions. I am going to make generalized statements, so please know that I know it is not all, or everyone in a particular group, or probably even most. . .it is the hugely lurking “they” and “Them” of every category I mention, I just don’t have the where with all to qualify every thought and statement at the moment.
I sit in my small home which is adequate for my needs. I have my small concerns which are important to my small world of me, but in relation to many others, really nothing at all. I have plenty of food to eat. I have clean fresh water to drink. I have clothes to wear. I have far more of everything than I need. By world standards, I am fabulously wealthy.
Maybe life was easier in the days before we had access to so much “instant” information. Maybe it was easier when all the news that was in the local little paper was about our village. And when we heard news from the seats of power in our counties, states and our nation and even the world, it was days, weeks or months after the fact. Maybe it was easier for us to turn our backs when we knew too little or it was too late.
Today I am angry about journalists and political operatives undermining our country, intent upon destroying an individual because of revenge over political differences. I am angry about lies and liars. I am angry that most likely nothing will happen to rebuke, chastise or punish such people. Most likely not in this case and quite possibly not in the larger lies and liars who have sent our children off to die in a foreign land while they likewise cause the deaths of innocent thousands of men women and children in that nation. I am extremely angry about our liberties being stripped away from us one after another by minions of giant corporations, some of them republican elected officials, some of them Democratic elected officials. I am angry at a long, long history of voter irregularities and disenfranchisement that our congress does not want to investigate or even look at cleaning up.
I am angry that there are people without homes living on our streets with no place to go, without food to survive, without medical treatment, with very few or not nearly enough people, organizations or agencies, or money to help them. I am angry that children in American are starving and have inadequate shelter, food, clothing and loving. I am angry that women and children are being raped, that boys and girls. . .children, for God sake, are being sexually abused and misused. I am angry that our elected elite are destroying our education system while feeding the behemoth corporate monsters who support this disaster of dumbing down the people. I am angry at the TV, Radio, major mega-media for having no concerns beyond the dollars on the bottom line. . .Owners salivating over the big bucks, Editors and Producers fearful of their high salaries and perks, so-called journalists fearful of their paychecks. . .etc. etc. I am angry about what is being done in the name of God and Religion (STILL. . .the crusades taught us nothing, apparently). Greed, hatred, avarice, debauchery, torture, death of innocents, lying, cheating, stealing, dishonor, selfishness, fear. . .I am angry at it all!
In 1994 we had Rwanda. America and the World turned our backs on it. What’s a few million dark-skinned “uncivilized” tribal “thems”. They are just killing each other. Not our concern. Right now, today, this very moment as you and I are sitting in relative comfort in our homes, surrounded with our basic needs for the most part; men, women and children are being slaughtered, raped, disfigured, their homes and villages destroyed, their means of supporting themselves even in the most meager ways totally wiped out. In the Congo, in Africa, this has been going on for some time now. . .more than 4 million. . .FOUR MILL LION dead over the past few years. The bands of warring tribesmen have destroyed so much that they have turned now to destroy the only thing they can see that hasn’t yet been totally torn asunder. They are gang raping women and children in front of their helpless family members. Eight to ten men at a time, gang raping. And they return, or others like them, in a few days or a few weeks to do it all over again.
But we are America. The once strongest nation in the world. A once thought of honorable and ethical nation. And frankly, we are far more concerned about the oil in Iraq and Iran and some sort of role of dominance there. And really. . .they are just those dark skinned backward, uncivilized tribes having a little war with each other. NONE OF OUR BUSINESS…..And they are, as I said, that dark skin tone, you know? FOUR MILLION DEAD! Not our concern. A little perspective: 4 million people is 3 times the entire population of my state of Idaho. Thousands upon thousands of women being brutally raped, endlessly. Not our concern.
And if I weren’t so deeply sad in my soul, so deeply overwhelmed with what is going on in almost every corner of this world, I would be angry beyond any means to control it, and I would become no better than the cruel, heartless disgusting men playing the major roles in every one of the things I have mentioned.
Instead of feeling hopeless and so deeply pained and sad that I am paralyzed into inaction, I will do what I can, but I will DO SOMETHING, NOW, TODAY! I am not asking you to give money or do what you cannot afford to do or are not capable of doing, I am asking you to do SOMETHING. If not about the concerns in the Congo, then something else. We cannot do everything, and God knows there is an unending pile of things that need doing. Find one damn thing that you can do, whether it is in your neighborhood, your town, your county, your sate, the Nation, the world, FIND ONE SMALL DAMN THING THAT YOU CAN DO. And do it NOW.
Many of you are already doing all that you can! Bless you and thank you. For those of you who can find one more small space on your plate for one more thing, please do what you can. Even if it is just writing to some of these women to encourage them. . .Please?
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If you pray or meditate or send healing energy, then please add this spot on our globe to the long list of the many that need our thoughts, concerns and prayers.
If you have suggestions of other organizations worthy of our help, please list them here for us to consider. Any good reputable groups that are helping world wide, or here at home. . .Let us know about them.
Here is some information about Kiberia, possibly the largest slum in East Africa, located in Nairobi, Kenya, and Carolina for Kibera, Inc. (CFK),a nonprofit charitable corporation and program of the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill based at the University Center for International Studies. CFK is the patron of these CFK-Kenya organizations:
The Binti Pamoja Online Photo Exhibit
I am sorry my comment is so long. I am posting this for a friend who believes in this organization. If she were here she would be making this post, but the diary might slip out of sight soon so I am doing it in her place.
How You Can Help In memory of Tabitha Atieno Festo, 1965-2004
Thanks bay. There are many places and ways we can help, and I am very glad you posted this information here. Not too long at all.
Whatever speaks to our hearts, it is good to see just where we might choose to help. It will surely do much for the recipiants, and a great deal to ease our own feelings of helplessness.
Hugs
http://www.boomantribune.com/?op=displaystory;sid=2005/7/5/122036/1041
Not an organization but one chance to help in Uganda with one family and group.
See also
http://projectafrica.blogspot.com/
Good diary Shirl, I know you expect me to say it is too long, but I won’t, you needed to get this out.
Thanks for the leeway, Diane. Sometimes we all just need to dump it, every last shred of it and I guess today was my day. And thanks for the link to Uganda.
Wonderfully written diary, Shirl. Thank you.
A woman in France wrote me about the crisis in Uganda, which I blogged a while ago.
And to think that what it cost to fly the IDIOT PRESIDENT and his staff to Gleneagles would feed thousands for at least a year.
Excuse me. It was Niger she wrote about. She’d love to have people visit her blog.
Thank you Susan. The link is appreciated. . .and I forgot to mention directly the enormous waste of our country that could help so many in so many places. GRRRrrrrrrrrrrrrrrr
I Disagree with you on the most important begining part of your diary: It is NOT a RANT,
It was the baring of your soul, and what a wonderful, beautiful, caring soul, that has blessed our community, and the world with it’s presence.
I humbly bow my head to you, with thanks, for sharing and exposing, the tremendous empathy that lies within.
You leave me humbled and just totally speechless. . . I have no words. . .
Hugs
Shirl
you need no words, your heart speaks louder than any voice ; )
Thanks go to you.
(Switching from kleenex to paper towels. . .)
(((((((((HUGS)))))))))
Sometimes the injustices inflicted upon the most vulnerable among us haunts me and makes me feel helpless. I would very much like to do something besides rant and write letters to the editor.
So many of us feel paralyzed by the sheer magnitude fo what needs to be done. But if each of us reached out a hand to help one person and keep that one soul from falling through the cracks we could make a difference.
Thanks, Shirl. Beautiful and angry and productive.
And you have it Oh, so perfectly right. Help the one right in front of you in whatever way you can. If there is more you have time and energy and ability to do, do that too.
Hugs
You are SO not alone in these deep feelings of anger and sadness, Shirl. Sometimes I just have to take a day or two away from all external news input just to stay half way in balance. I’m glad you could put it here, share it, and hopefully at lighten your load a little bit.
Rest up sistah..lean on others awhile, borrow some strength or hope ot whatever you need from those with some to spare. You offer all these things to others so freely, and receiving is every bit as much a gift. We’ll get through it all together.
Thanks for your words.
You are totally right, I know I am not alone, and I know a very large number of people on this site alone feel the same way.
I am doing fine and so much finer than millions of others in our world are doing. Just letting the steam out helps me get right back at it. Thanks for your kind words.
Together we are unstopable!
Hugs
Never doubt that a small group of thoughtful, committed citizens can change the world, indeed it’s the only thing that ever has.
–Margaret Mead
It sounds even better when you say it, Indy. And I have always love the Margaret Mead quote. So thank you twice.
I watched a very poignant photo journalism piece about Africa on Aaron Brown’s show this evening and had the same thoughts you did. First of all – I have abundance even though I am poor. Secondly, 8 white men in designer suits in Scotland certainly aren’t going to make the world a better place, so what am I doing about it? Not enough, sadly. Not enough.
I’ve often had times when my anxiety about the world “out there” took me to a place where I just had to retreat because I just couldn’t cope with seeing it all or hearing about it anymore. I had to realize that 1) I’m not in charge of changing the world and 2) I can do something locally that may seem like a small drop in a bottomless bucket, but at least it will mean something to somebody.
I was upset today when I watched clips of violent protesters in Scotland. I have just one thing to say to them: GO HOME. You are not helping. You continually distract from what’s vital – a message of peace and help.
All I have to offer to you Shirl is this hug and the knowledge that you are not alone. Thank you for writing this diary. It’s good to find out that I wasn’t alone today either.
You and I were certainly on the same beam of light then. <sigh> sometimes it is just too much. And then I think of my fairly comfortable self in a nice protected little space with more than I really need. . .and I think I have a lot of nerve feeling downhearted and helpless.
It doesn’t stop my heart from breaking for all of you that have so many more challenges and horrors to face than I do. It doesn’t stop that heavenward conversation about how long? How long must this continue and what can I do about it? Where can I have influence that might help? What in my small way can I do? And I join my tears and heartbreak with yours and millions of others and I continue to lift my plea to higher powers.
I listen. I listen intently. I follow the inner guidance I am able to hear. I am willing and I allow that it isn’t ALL my responsibility, but I carry my share and a little more if I am able. I do what I am given to do the best way I am able. I know that is all I can do.
I find the joy around me and I do what I can to share it with others. I hope and pray for some moments of joy for those who are so much under siege and I turn it over to ONE that can see, feel and do more than I can.
And tomorrow is another day in all the days of my allotment.
Hugs
Namaste`
Shirl
Thanks for sharing. I have a lot of those days which is why I’ve gotten behind the loss of freedom, big brother ‘tin-foil’ stuff. To me politics are almost moot now. Our hands seemed to be tied. Too many wrongs in America, too many crooks and corrupted greedy people to point fingers at (I only have ten…)so I have directed my anger to us dumbed down victims of ‘something else’. It is the only explanation my brain will accept right now. We are being tracked by RFIDs,cell phones and controlled with minimal NEWS and bad tv.
I live minimally like you and cannot save the world. I’m too busy trying to save my life and those around me from suffocation. I’ve become desensitized to those dying needlessly-because in many ways they are the lucky ones… And I mean that in a spiritual way. My heart broke years ago.
Hearts are funny things. They can sustain being broken on a daily basis, yet still find that theres enough love and caring left over to re-group and dash back into the fight to right the wrongs of the world, no matter how insignificant any one contribution may seem ;O)
I took an hour last night between jobs just to grab something to eat and to check up on all you good people, and was quietly reading when there was a knock at my door. Well, my first reaction was to be annoyed at having what little time I had interupted. At the door was this teenager with his clipboard and immediately I assumed he was collecting donations so he and his class could go to some after school year trip to Aruba or some such useless shit ;O). He introduced himself as Michael, which was cool ’cause that happens to be my name too. What he was selling though, was something near and dear to me. I can’t get into it too much, but I’ll just say that there is a company, Broadwater, sound familiar?, that is attempting to build an offshore natural gas collection platform in the middle of Long Island Sound, GRRRRRRRRR, and he was asking for donations to help fight it. He was also giving out lists of Senators and other state and federally elected officials that he hoped we would right to, and asking for signatures which reminded me of my own save the whales and seals petitions that I took around as a kid. Btw, by his accent I could tell he was Canadian, which was cool I thought. I gave him the name of our democratic congressman, which he did’nt know about. I shared my feelings and some of my knowledge of local and some national and international actions that needed attention, and when he realized that I was aware and somewhat knowledgeable about his and other causes, it was like we were friends 25 or 30 years apart. Any way, I gave him what I could, signed his petition, thanked him for his efforts and as he left he says to me; thanks dude, peace, and off he went.
Well needless to say, I felt a little bit better about the rest of my day for having met this young activist and being able, in some small way, to make a contribution. I felt renewed and energetic again.
The moral to the story is…………Listen to Shirl!!
Do something, anything at all. You’ll be rewarded in so many ways, large and small, and somewhere in the world, perhaps someones life will be made a tiny bit less unbearable, or a corporate environmental rapist will have one more roadblock erected in it’s path.
Diane’s friend, Pastor Lincoln, needs help. What can we all do for him and others in his town. It’s a thought.
P.S. Shirl, I haven’t known you long, but let me say……you’re a beauty, as are you all.
Peace
Michael, I love you. And your story is just exactly what I hope others can take away from posting here.
Do what you can, when you can, don’t just feel helpless. That is really all I was hoping to convey.
Yes, Pastor Lincoln, Dine’s friend can use our help as those in his group. Let’s see what we can do, no matter how small to help him and those around him. It is not the size of the gift of help, it is the size of the heart of the giver that counts.
Hugs
Right back at ya :O)
Rosee, I know the feeling. But the gift of you that you share with us, is a gift indeed. You lift us up a notch with your sharing here and we all go on to do what we can.
Thanks for your caring heart
Ah Shirl. You rock, my girl. I hear your rage and your sadness. It hurts to be an empathetic, caring person right now in this world of ours.
Every month, I send a small donation to an AIDS orphanage n Africa that was founded by Winnie, and was run until recently by my ex-father-in-law.
More details here:
Makindu.
It’s not much. But it’s something.
I love What Makindu is doing. I’ve been a giver there for quite a while now.
It is indeed something! Thanks Lorraine.
I have to say something, but all I have right now are tears and a simple “thank you” from my soul to yours. My heart is broken, but I will find a way to keep going and fight back!!
You know I am right there with you. After a couple of tears, we will just take a deep breath or two, set our resolve and get right back at it. I’ll lean on you a bit and you lean on me and we will keep right on doing everything we can. One person at a time.
I found Beads for Education last winter. I bought beaded key chains made by women in Kenya for all my friends for Christmas last year.
Yes, NL! Sometimes it is easy to think that acts such as yours are “not enough” but they are enough in that moment and they are what we can do. What a wonderful gift you gave your friends.
Thanks
Shirl, thanks for posting this. So often when I read this stuff, I sink into the ‘Why bother’ mode. I really need a reminder to maintain the fighting spirit. I’m especially grateful for the links from Bayprairie showing me some small way I can help without leaving my chair. Together we are making a difference, drop by drop.
Alice, you are so right. Somedays it just seems more than any of us can wrap our minds and hearts around. But we know we can rely upon each other and after a short breather and a reminder, we will be right back in it.
Thanks
Hi, I’m guessing you followed the Carolina for Kiberia link? Thank you for doing so. i just know that anyone who visits the The Binti Pamoja Online Photo Exhibit photo exhibit page will want to help these young girls. i would like to correct a misassumption you are making though. you say:
showing me some small way I can help
There’s a good chance that you might end up helping in a very big way. Perhaps you saw the story about how Tabitha Festo put a 26 dollar contribution into the vegetable business for 6 months, and how the profits from that six month effort became the seed money for one of the only clinics in Kibera that offers in-patient and out-patient medical services to residents 24 hours a day, seven days a week. Sometimes 26 dollars is a small thing. And then sometimes it’s not.
Good Morning Shirl, My Friend and wonderful human being, I couldn’t agree with you more on your rant. I can not say anymore than what you have already said. We all have days and to me it seems that my days run together of being numbed by the awful things that is being produced by the world in which we live. I can not help but wonder what it would be like if we had a different leadership in our own land. Would we be able to do different things on different matters?
My mind is so confused on many matters of day to day things. I hardly know where to being in each day. I can only thank my Lord that He has granted me one more day of living to give to my fellow human family and that I am fairly good health and can sustain one more day with out being in the state of need.
I like you try hard to provide for myself and save enough to sustain me so that I can perhaps get by. I am not wealthy by far, but I am comfortable by some standards in the world. I have never been wealthy, only meeting my obligation for a day at a time. living from one paycheck to another. I raised 3 children this way and they all turned out good ppl. I think I installed to them the morals and ethics that is needed for them to be productive and honest and loving. This is all I could have asked for in the end. I want for them things to be better than which was for me. What I see happening to us all is the turning back of the progress for which we have fought for all our lives.
As far as the world, I think this mornings bombing in London has brought it right back to where it belongs. When we finally realize that we are the reasons for this behavior in making our policies and doing our trade and selling of our goods and wares that makes it not sustainable for others in the world, then when we realize this in ourselves is when we can start to correct the madness of other nations and their madness. We first have to change ourselves first before we can change others for the betterment of mankind.
I understand your rant and your feelings however. I really do. I pray that God bring some sort of peace within your soul as you lie your head down to sleep tonight. Just know you are not alone in this world with you in your feelings. HUGS….
Thanks so much Brenda. I do know that I am not alone and that is what is so wonderful about this site. A place where I can stop and share my feelings of anger, saddness, and wanting to do more.
You give so much in your day to day life, just be so proud of what you already have given and know that we all appreciate you too.
I will never be down enough not to get back up and back into the fray.
Thanks
Shirls…first thank you for baring your heart and soul here. This is what makes this site so unusual. I have felt this same way for most of the time since 9/11.What we see and hear on a daily basis because of our instant technology today is overwhelming. My outrage meter is broken for the most part but then something like your diary instantly fixes it so that I can keep going, keep working first to be a better human being myself and then do what I can to try and make someone elses life just a little more bearable.It as if all this information is a daily assault on my soul. Let us ALL start practicing Random acts of Kindness.
Albet Eistein wrote:
” A human being is a part of the whole that we call the universe, a part limited in time and space. He experiences himself, his thoughts and feelings, as something seperates from the rest-a kind of optical illusion of his consciousness. This illusion is a prison for us, restricting us to our personal desires and to affection for only the few nearest to us. Our task must be to free ourselves from this prison by widening our circle of compassion to embrace all living beings and all of nature.” You have widened our circle today with your diary Shirls. Thank you for that!
Wow, thanks Aloha. And Enstien was and is absolutely right. We are not separate from each other and that is why sometimes our hearts hurt so much that other parts of us must suffer such terrible things.
I’ll hang in there until there is not a breath in me left because there are others like you who encourage and uplift me in the moments I don’t feel up to it.
Thanks
Well, crap…now you went and made me cry. If only I could reach my sister and snap her out of her republican denial. Got anymagic potions for that…lol?
that you espouse with all that anger and rage.
Exhortations imply that it is somehow because of our indolence or apathy that these murders take place. I believe they are random acts of evil.
I make room in my heart exactly by looking at, expressing and then releasing my anger and rage. If we have anger, and most of us do from time to time, we cannot, must not pretend that it doesn’t exist. It is a process, which for me writing is an integral part, of recognizing what is and transmuting it by allowing it to change. Change comes from knowing and understanding there is a bigger picture always and continuing to step back from the closeup view of things to see a bigger and bigger picture.
I do not harbor anger or rage, or hold it within me. I do not foist my anger on others except that I do sometimes share that I am having those feelings. Once I release them, the feelings are gone. I do not dwell on them or reclaim them. That is how I make room for the love which is our natural state of being, one of love.
I have one of those days all too often these days.
Hang in there.
I am doing well, and anger once expressed for me is anger no longer held. I am fine. Thanks for the support
yes its good to get it out once in a while.
I scream in my car every so often at Bush and co. Quite liberating lol
Thank you for writing this, shirl… not a rant, but a cry from the heart that has obviously reached other hearts and spoken for them too, including mine. I have no words to add, but as I live very simply as well, I can give a couple of simple suggestions for helping day by day. We had a discussion about this in a diary a few months ago, so these are not all from me, but just a compilation of what I remember.
A friend of mine travels often and brings her own toiletries, so she doesn’t use the hotel provided stuff. What she does do is take all that they offer, bring it home and after putting together a small collection, she wraps it all up in a pretty gift bag or basket and takes it to the local battered women’s shelter, or homeless shelter/group homes.
More than money, a used sewing machine or something like that can put someone into business in an economically poor country.
There are also places that make microloans to set up people in business, as well as the ones that buy goats or cows.
As part of Susan Hu’s “10 Most Under Reported Stories from the UN” project, I discovered that for $300, a woman can get an operation to cure her of fistula. I wrote a diary about it here.
Just a few suggestions that came up… one thing I really like about this place is that caring about others doesn’t have to be considered “Off Topic”. It’s part of who we are.
Thanks for proving that out.
Thanks Nanette. All valuable suggestions and very helpful for all who wish to find a way to do something productive rather than feel helpless.
Together we can share our concerns and our moments of feeling less than up to the task. Together we can do a grat deal.
Yes, absolutely, caring about others is part of who we are.
I read your diary yesterday and re-read it in entirety today. Thank you for being you.
Aw Manny, you’re a glutton for my overly long expressions of thought. Bless you’re heart.
I was so right about adopting you, and thank your mom again for letting me share a little virtual part of you now and then.
Big Hugs (((((((Hugs)))))))
Shirl
no text…great effort to end world poverty, hunger and aids.