(Cross-posted at Daily Kos, my blog, and My Left Wing)
I have two new heroes as of this past weekend.
One is a Palestinian family and the other is a group of 23 teenaged girls. Come with me while I tell you a bit of their stories and why I think they are heroes.
More after the flip.
Although this isn’t a diary about politics, it is essentially political because of the circumstances and the lives of the people’s story I will try to tell.
It’s no surprise to anyone who even infrequently follows the news that violence is a way of life for Israelis and Palestinians. This violence doesn’t discriminate by gender or by age. Last week, it was a 12-year old Palestinian boy caught in the crossfire. On Wednesday, Ahmed al-Khatib was doing what 12-year old boys of any nationality in any country do – he was playing. Sadly for him, he was playing with a plastic gun that Israeli troops mistook for a real weapon – they opened fire. Ahmed was rushed to the hospital where he received care and the good doctors and nurses attempted to save his young life. On Saturday, Ahmed died of his wounds.
Now for the heroic and remarkable part. To see Ahmed’s parents you would be put in mind of any parent anywhere on this planet who had just lost a child they loved. They were and are grief stricken. It would make sense to me that they would blame the Israelis for the loss of their son – he was only a twelve-year old boy, for God’s sake. And in their own hearts, in the privacy of their grief, they may feel that. But their actions defy that particular reality. Ahmed’s parents made the decision to donate his organs so that, in his death, others might live.
The recipients of this precious gift of life, one only possible through the tragedy of death? Six Israelis. A seven-month old Israeli baby and a 58-year old Israeli woman received his liver. 14-year old and 4-year old Israeli children received his kidneys. A 5-year old Israeli child received his lungs. And a 12-year old Israeli child received his heart. All six of these lives, these human lives, are recovering and will have a chance at the life that Ahmed lost.
From the article, this was worth quoting:
Khatib said the decision to donate his son Ahmed’s organs for transplant stemmed from a desire to answer violence with a concrete gesture of peace.
“I have taken this decision because I have a message for the world: that the Palestinian people want peace – for everyone,” he said on Sunday.
“We have no problem whether it is an Israeli or a Palestinian (who receives his organs) because it will give them life,” said the boy’s mother, Ablah al-Khatib.
My second hero is not a person but a group – of 23 high-school aged girls who understand their own dignity and integrity, as well as their faith in their powwer to effect change. I originally wrote about this particular story at the Boycott Thieves blog, as one small example of the power of people with conviction.
These girls have decided to start a “girl-cott” against Abercrombie and Fitch, a higher-end retailer that relies specifically on the teen and young adult markets. What has them angry? A series of T-shirts that Abercrombie and Fitch call “Attitude Tees”. Here are a few of the slogans that “Attitude Tees” feature:
- Who needs brains when you have these? (Note: These words are stretched across the wearer’s chest)
- Blondes are adored, brunettes are ignored.
- I make you look fat.
As a musician and a woman who works professionally in a very male-dominated world, I can tell you that I have a pretty thick skin. These T-shirts? Just… awful. In a world that insists that female beauty falls within such narrow confines and in which young women struggle through all the messages they receive in the media and in society as to their value, these shirts are disgusting.
The 23 girls felt the same way and undertook an organized effort to discourage peers and friends from shopping at Abercrombie and Fitch. Further, the Woman and Girls Foundation of Western Pennsylvania are assisting the girls, and last week, NBC’s Today Show picked up the story. From there the media dominoes fell – CNN, MSNBC, ABC, all the major TV news outlets picked up and ran the story.
On Friday of last week, Ambercrombie and Fitch agreed to pull some of the “Attitude Tees” from their shelves. Score one for a small, principled group of teenage girls with a solid sense of themselves and what’s demeaning and offensive.
So now, my thoughts – I’ll try to keep them brief.
As I watched the story about the Palestinian family, I found myself becoming incredibly emotional. For one thing, the grief on that mother’s face was so essentially human that I couldn’t help but be moved. More importantly, though, this one small gesture by this one family that gave their dead son’s organs so that others might live, the same ‘others’ who may in turn hate Palestinians gave me a vision of the person I would like to be. A person who can transcend my own shortcomings and fears and biases and stand on principle. Their principle was peace – for everyone. The platform was the death of their son and the gift of life they decided to grant to six other people so that their principles would be served, even in tragedy.
I only hope that when the time comes for me to stand up – to mean it and to lead by example, that I can set half of the example that this family did.
They are heroid.
The 23 teenaged girls are my heroes because they reinvigorated me to a few things that I always believed but that I’ve lost sight of during this horrible, uncaring Administration. One, your one small voice, standing on principle and on the side of right, matters. It matters all the time in everything you do. Perhaps The Today Show would have never heard the story – had the news cycle been different their story may have never come to light. But they would still touch each other in their efforts and touch those around them. Someone will notice – maybe one someone or maybe tens of thousands of someones. That simple willingness to stand up holds, for me, a profound sense of hope and a renewed spirit of perseverence.
The second thing the “girl-cott” did was renew my willingness to take on giant corporations that perpetrate injustice and to stick to it – always. No excuses. I don’t shop at Wal-Mart. I won’t shop at Wal-Mart. I tell people that I don’t and why I won’t. Maybe they will still go there, and maybe they won’t. But I won’t be quiet about it. I won’t go to Exxon/Mobil for gas. Or gum. Or sodas. Or anything. If those girls can make a difference, so can I and Exxon isn’t getting another dime of my money.
Heroes are all shapes and sizes, all nationalities and genders, all ages. These are just two of mine – I hope you found them as inspiring and I did.
My God! What amazing, inspirational stories. Thank you.
I recall sometime ago an Israeli family made a similar decision, allowing the organs to be harvested that went to Palestinian patients. I also remember the enormous amount of coverage that act of sacrifice received on the MSM.
I haven’t changed my reading habits, so I am doubly thankful to Rena for posting this here, since I haven’t seen it anywhere else.
Heroics acts aren’t always about what a person does… but sometimes about what a person doesn’t do. 🙂
The two heroes in my life: Wesley and Danni. Age 13 and 11.
Wesley, because each and every day he has to work harder than everyone else just to stay a bit behind. He never gives up. All he wants to do is be friends with everyone. He teaches people around him: Empathy and Compassion.
Danni, because she’s a dreamer and shares her dreams with all. Already at age 11, she’s taking on “the man” and writes letters to politicans.
They are my heroes.
My daughter… Our daughters… Our friends daughters… they will have such a fight on their hands due to the aftermath of Bush Inc. Another reason why we must not stop.
I’m so grateful for your diaries, Rena! xoxox!
Thx, Janet. 🙂 The T-shirt story gave me a big boost with a lot of fist-pumping, power-to-the-people type gestures. The Palestinian story, especially with the visuals of the mother, brought me to tears.
Fist pumping to tears… I find that most of what happens in my days lately are just that. Bittersweet moments that are constantly fueled with hope.
I am so glad I got a few brief moments to meet you in DC 🙂 You are a firestorm of passion and heart.
Great stories, Rena, great examples.
The Palestinian family’s example is simply stunning in the moral purity of their actions. Could I be as generous? Their generosity forces all who know about it to consider their own moral decisions.
And the teens, at an age where conformity is so strong, to take on the A&F advertising juggernaut. Wow. What will they accomplish when they are grown?
Thanks so much for writing about these people!
KidSpeak, I was very happy to see so many teenager/early 20s at the march! The news and papers do them a disservice when they call them apathetic or apolitical.
Found out that the other person on my mountain who was posting about “The World Can’t Wait” was a FIFTEEN yr old boy. Coolness!!
We really have to support them in their activism.
That’s very encouraging!
My husband isn’t overly political (apparently, I have enough for the whole family!) but I showed him the post and told him the story and he said that it was something that brought him hope – and he’s the biggest cynic there is.
Your introspective questions are spot-on. As we measure ourselves, I think it’s both instructive and powerful to hope that we would show strength, courage and compassion if faced with something similar.
These wonderful stories just remind us that a small group of ordinary people can do anything. When I go back to school, I will share these with my students.
Thank you Rena.
Thank you (((Rena))), these are wonderful stories.
You are one of my heroes.
daughter number 1 is 23 and in college….has been out of the house supporting herself since she was 18…she works and goes to school and is also supporting her boyfriend thru grad school….this is pretty fucking amazing considering her many health problems….when she was young she had incredibly bad body image issues….she always wore giant baggy clothes and really hid her body….i remember sitting in the dressing room while she tried on bathing suits and cried over how much she hated her body…as someone with a long history with eating disorders who now teaches body image workshops all over the country, i was totally horrified that i hadnt given her a better sense of body image….when she was 18 she had breast reduction surgery and its like she was reborn….she still battles with her weight and she is considered a BBW but since then she is all about the tight sexy clothes….she basically managed to shed that bad body image thing and is obviously very comfortable with her body now.
daughter number 2 is 16….she is stunningly beautiful….a size 5 with 36 DDDs….she looks like angelina jolie only she is prettier….honestly…..she has never had a bad body image moment that i know of….she is all about the cleavage and the tightest tshirts she can wear…i was astonished last summer when she came home from the store with $100 bathing suit and was literally 2 strings and half a hanky… why does 4 square inches of fabric cost $100? am i paying for engineering? my parents, my husband, my brother and my boyfriend all insisted she wasnt allowed out of the house without clothes over that bikini and they all refused to go to the pool with her….she was beside herself with pride.
both of my daughters are liberated, independent, progressive thinkers.
they both love and want that “Who needs brains when you have these” tshirts.
they seem to get that its a joke and they arent going to allow anyone to force them to feel bad about their bodies, their feelings about their bodies, or the fact that they can make fun of themselves and the rules that society, including so called liberated society, would force on them.