I don’t know if Maureen Dowd could get more irrelevant. I haven’t read a column of hers since the New York Times put her behind a paywall. Now, Raw Story shows me what I’m not missing. I’m not missing Dowd’s analysis of the word ‘slut’.
“After eons of being a summary judgment that a woman is damaged goods, the word slut has shifted into more ambiguous territory,” Dowd writes. “It can still be an insult, especially since there is no pejorative equivalent to suggest that a man has sullied himself with too many sexual partners.”
“Men are players, women are sluts, just the way men are tough and women are bitchy,” the column continues.
“But as women express themselves more, sexually and professionally, and no longer need to ‘use their virginity as a meal ticket,’ as the anthropologist Helen Fisher puts it, the slur may have lost some sting,” Dowd writes.
“Slut” is a faddish appellation for everything from lip balm to cocktails, and applies to voracious behavior of all kinds; Cosmopolitan recently ran a quiz on how to tell if you’re an “attention slut.”
“It’s just a really fun word to say,” explains my classy 26-year-old girlfriend. “Usually women only call someone a slut if she’s not slutty, but if you do call a slutty friend a slut, you can get away with it because, oh, it was just a joke, even when it’s not. So, yet another way for mean girls to flourish.”
It was probably inevitable, once women began discovering their inner slut with microminis and other provocative outfits and with high school and college girls reporting a much more blase attitude about performing oral sex, that they’d turn the word itself inside-out. But, semantics aside, have attitudes really changed much?
Studies show that superiors, men and women, may penalize female executives who dress in too sexy a manner — proving that it’s not always safe to strut as a slut. And Don Reisinger, a student in Albany, told Rosenbloom: “When I think of the word slut, I think of a woman who has been around the block more times than my dad’s Chevy. I might date a slut, but I certainly wouldn’t marry one.”
It should go without saying that the New York Times’s Opinion Page is rarefied real estate. Only a select few get to publish their ideas there. NYT’s op-eds have the power to change the political debate, even the world. As the country grapples with a new law on the handling of detainees, a new law on domestic surveillance, with a hopeless war in Iraq, and a blowup in Israel, all Dowd can come up with to discuss is whether the word ‘slut’ still carries the same sting it used to.
If her 26 year-old friend says it is just a fabulously fun word to say, then maybe Dowd is right. Who knows? But, really, who cares? I look forward to hearing Krugman tell me whether the word ‘nerd’ still bites to the bone, of Frank Rich tell me whether ‘spoiled dry-drunk duty-dodging frat-boy ex-cheerleading punk’ makes the President uncomfortable.
Someone please take Dowd’s job away from her. She long ago demonstrated that she doesn’t deserve the space.
Someone please take Dowd’s job away from her. She long ago demonstrated that she doesn’t deserve the space.
Yes. Please
I quit reading her when she took after Judith Steinberg Dean for her hair, clothing and lack of interest in expensive, shallow gifts. And, of all things, for her dedication to her career.
Yeah. As far as I’m concerned that did in any credibility Dowd had as a spokesperson for women’s issues.
I wish the times would replace her with Molly Ivins!
More than agreed, Kahli! MoDo has gone the way of the Dodo if you ask me (though you didn’t!) … I used to really like her but she’s lost all credibility with me as well. I don’t miss her being behind the Select firewall anymore… the ones I really miss are Krugman and Rich, who still give me hope for rational discourse these days.
Honestly, if she wants to deconstruct the permutating manifestations of ‘slut,’ she belongs more in an academic journal than in the NYT, but then, the old gray lady ain’t what she used to be, as well all know…!
Herbert, too.
We still get the paper copy because there is much in there not online. Esp business and the arts.
While I agree with you that this is a subject that is of less interest (and perhaps, of less importance) than many – how would you approach it if it were on the use of the word ‘nigger’ rather than ‘slut’?
We are still a bigoted society overall & those who have been historically oppressed are only slightly less so today, with the pendulum constantly poised to swing back.
Dowd’s issues & priorities may not be mine, but she is a keen observer.
let me know when Bob Herbert wastes a whole column wondering whether nigger is still a bad word. I can assure you that it won’t happen in this news environment…if ever.
You’d probably feel differently if you were the one called a slut or being examined for appropriate levels of sexiness etc. For women, the constant tension due to being examined for appropriate female behaviors is exhausting. It is a cultural phenomenon. I may not like Dowd all the time, but I think the discrimination and non-stop harassment that women face is a detriment to both women and men.
A little thought on your part would make you understand why. And yes, it is the equivalent of calling people of color nigger, raghead, or gook, or people of different sexual orientation fags, homos and so forth.
You are absolutely right. However, I think Dowd addresses the issue frivolously and I’ve seen her go after other women in ways that are hardly enlightened.
I think most readers here would consider me a feminist, but I have to admit that with all that is going on today this may not have been a high priority.
It does disturb me that women accept the term slut. I’ve also seen a lot of young women happily let there male friends call them bitches as well.
So yes, I agree that sexism is pervasive and detrimental to women. I don’t believe Dowd will ever address this issue seriously. And I think Booman is right that there are currently more burning issues to contend with.
I am also aware that Dowd wrote a less than complimentary editorial about blogs after yearly Kos, so that may be coloring some of the background.
Dowd seems to go in streaks. She can write some brilliant columns, but this is her second really bad one in a row. Thank goodness for Paul Krugman who is always brilliant.
is for the comment on Krugman, not Dowd.
Understood. I just reviewed Dowd’s recent columns, and she really is turning out some dreadful ones lately. Nevertheless, when she gets on a roll she can be witty, entertaining and deadly. She certainly isn’t on a roll lately though. She is at her best when she aims her sights at Bush, Rummy, and Cheney.
Wouldn’t want to cover real news now, would we. That being said, I guess we are well into silly season. Makes you wonder if she cranked out a few crap stories and then took off on vacation for a couple of weeks.
Yeah, but I’ll bet it gets Punch all worked up.
Maureen got her inspiration from this article in the NY Times…but I’m sure Amanda at Pandagon covered the subject much better…
Hell, it’s the weekend — you’ve got better things to do than stew over Ms. Dowd, BooMan dear…
Great comment that on Bob Herbert and ‘niggers’…
Me?
I studied the DowdOne at YearlyKos, she was hangin’ wit da ‘Nags’…man is he ugly, and she is one seriously weird bitch. I could go on about why I think she can’t get a date….but….yawn…can’t keep my eyes….open….
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This is the kicker that reveals Dowd’s conservative mindset:
Dowd gets a man to say what she wants to say: that women of a certain disposition are worthless to men of a certain diposition. What kind of men? Men who judge women on the basis of their sexuality. By giving prominence to Don and his views, Dowd privileges those views over other more tolerant views. Thus he is her proxy, he says it more forcefully, and in a way that substantiates Dowd’s position.
But does she ask why he wouldn’t marry such a woman? Apparently not. From my perspective, Don is the biggest reactionary in the piece, and he should be questioned on this point. So Dowd reveals her conservative agenda even further through this lack of challenge to his masculine ideology. She tacitly supports it.
What could she have done differently? Find a guy who likes sluts. Find a bunch of guys who refuse to pass judgement in such fashion, or who feel they’ve got something to celebrate in their parner’s sexuality, regardless of what it’s called. Better yet, find a bunch of women who have ‘reclaimed’ the word for their own use. Paint a picture that’s not so monochromatic, so crudely drawn.
Hang on a mo’. There’s something wrong here.
The Raw Story piece seems to have excerpted Stephanie Rosenbloom’s material and attributed it to Dowd.
For example, the following is from Rosenbloom, not Dowd:
That seems to mean a) Raw Story isn’t attributing properly, b) we still don’t know what Dowd did or didn’t write, c) that I should have read the Rosenbloom piece first, and d) that my characterisation of Dowd is now suspect because it’s based on faulty reporting by Raw Story.