I am sick of sicko’s using The Alcohol Excuse and how many of us accept that. I have suffered tremendously at the hand of The Alcohol Excuse. Because of alcohol and blackouts and denial many ‘victims’ become the target yet again.
Because I was married to an alcoholic I am now maligned as the co-dependent enabler witchy bitch. Because I dared call the cops when my husband beat me, threatened my life or if he was driving drunk and he had to spend 4 months in jail for a second DUI, his family rescued him from me and protect him from me. I am the wrong one. When he is sober he seemed like such a nice guy…
He deserted all his responsibilities to escape ‘his conscious’ -me. The anger inside me is incredible because of the lack of justice as Bob Johnson’s diary The Foley Case.. so eloquently points out. Justice is needed before forgiveness.
My husband’s family has no knowledge of his actions against me, or of his perverted behaviour he practiced while drunk- like going out in public with a butt-plug while bingeing on viagara so he could get his thrills ‘talking up’ (his words) un-suspecting women etc., his porn addiction, masturbating while watching sports- talk about me being grossed out and stunned at some of this drunken behaviour. Cops would arrest him for being passed out in his ‘parked’ car and then tell me was a perfect gentleman, and I’d yell at the cops for not keeping him over night and how bad he treated me at home when he was drunk. The good-old boys-club thing I guess. The cop would then tell me there was a full bottle of liquor still in the car. Why didn’t the cops confiscate that?
Because he suffered the convenient blackouts and tremors he has little if no memory of the horrendous things he did, that I suffered and witnessed, and all I have left is the anger. All I want from him is a remorseful apology and acknowledgement of the pain he caused so that I can move on. I’ll never get it- the justice part, so I have to deal with getting over the anger some how and hopefully be able to forgive him someday.
I bring this up because I noticed how angry Bob Johnson still sounded, years after his bad experience, which fortunately did not even get to the ‘rape’ part. It made me imagine all the pain of all of us who have suffered from someone else’s sickness who never paid the price for their hellish actions. And how The Alcohol Excuse conveniently ‘hides’ the atrocities that those who practice bad behaviour seems acceptable to many. Just go into rehab and the perp is ‘forgiven’ by society. Somehow compassion is being mis-directed in so many cases.
Until The Alcohol Excuse is no longer acceptable by our society these outrages will never cease. I mean, look at how even Bush, an alcoholic, has been accepted as a president. Maybe alcohol IS the bigger issue here. Maybe pedophiles would not exist without it..Ya think? Why is there not more outrage at Foley from the other side? Do you think the same people who own and operate re-habs (or big-wig hideouts) are the same people who run NAMBLA and congress and churches…
Sorry for the ramblings, but after reading Bob Johnson’s diary and feeling his anger it just re-triggered mine.
