The Vatican refuses to bless same-sex marriages because it teaches that the purpose of sex and marriage is procreation.
The Catholic Church just reiterated its refusal to bless gay marriages, which should surprise exactly no one but is still causing outrage. The opinion was released by the Congregation for the Doctrine of the Faith, the office responsible for expounding on official doctrine.
Their reasoning is entirely consistent with the Church’s understanding of human sexuality going back millennia.
…it is not licit to impart a blessing on relationships, or partnerships, even stable, that involve sexual activity outside of marriage (i.e., outside the indissoluble union of a man and a woman open in itself to the transmission of life), as is the case of the unions between persons of the same sex.
The Holy See would have to abandon its conception of the purpose of marriage in order to give approval to marriages that cannot “bear fruit.” If you’re really interested in all the doctrinal obstacles involved here, you’ll have to delve into the role of “sacraments” and “sacramentals,” and that’s explained in the Vatican’s letter. The short version is that a “blessing” isn’t considered a casual thing that can be issued just to be polite or on the right side of public opinion. They can’t bless something that flagrantly contradicts their doctrine.
Consequently, in order to conform with the nature of sacramentals, when a blessing is invoked on particular human relationships, in addition to the right intention of those who participate, it is necessary that what is blessed be objectively and positively ordered to receive and express grace, according to the designs of God inscribed in creation, and fully revealed by Christ the Lord. Therefore, only those realities which are in themselves ordered to serve those ends are congruent with the essence of the blessing imparted by the Church.
So, again, this comes down to marriage. What is it for? The Church says “by its very nature the institution of marriage and married love is ordered to the procreation and education of the offspring and it is in them that it finds its crowning glory.”
Marriage is “ordered to procreation” and is fundamental. All else flows from it.
Furthermore, since blessings on persons are in relationship with the sacraments, the blessing of homosexual unions cannot be considered licit. This is because they would constitute a certain imitation or analogue of the nuptial blessing invoked on the man and woman united in the sacrament of Matrimony, while in fact “there are absolutely no grounds for considering homosexual unions to be in any way similar or even remotely analogous to God’s plan for marriage and family.”
This language comes across as harsh and almost nonsensical. How is a marriage between a same-sex couple not “even remotely analogous” to a marriage between a man and a woman? It comes down to sex.
Sex is only permissible if there is at least an openness to procreation involved, and only within the confines of a sanctified marriage. Were the Church to reconsider this doctrine, it would have to alter its position on a lot more than gay marriage, and they are not prepared to do that.
As a Protestant-raised agnostic, I have no bone in this fight. People can belong to the Church and accept its understanding of marriage and human sexuality or they can fight to change it. Others can leave the faith for another more compatible with their beliefs. It’s makes no difference to me.
But it’s important to understand that this isn’t a small thing the Church is being asked to alter. It’s bedrock stuff that implicates everything from birth control, celibacy, sex outside of marriage, the marriage sacrament, the purpose of marriage, and the role of sacramental blessings. It’s really a way of looking at human beings’ role in the universe that can’t be tweaked to accommodate a modern understanding of human sexuality and relationships.
If you’re down with this worldview, then Catholicism is the religion for you. If you’re not, then gay marriage isn’t by any means the only area where you’re going to be disappointed on sexual matters within the faith.
Having said that, Pope Francis has been significantly more tolerant and welcoming of the LGBT community than any of his predecessors. Even this ruling, which he approved, sounds apologetic in its overall tone.
The declaration of the unlawfulness of blessings of unions between persons of the same sex is not therefore, and is not intended to be, a form of unjust discrimination, but rather a reminder of the truth of the liturgical rite and of the very nature of the sacramentals, as the Church understands them.
The Christian community and its Pastors are called to welcome with respect and sensitivity persons with homosexual inclinations, and will know how to find the most appropriate ways, consistent with Church teaching, to proclaim to them the Gospel in its fullness.
In the end, though, they are compelled to call homosexual acts and same-sex marriage “sinful,” because there’s no doctrinal way to avoid that conclusion that’s consistent with its holistic view of God’s plan for humanity.
As I said above, anyone who wants to change this is facing a big challenge. They’ll have my respect and best wishes. For me, though, I can’t find anything significant to fault in the latest ruling that wasn’t already baked in the cake before it. It’s a religion-a way of understanding the world and our place in it. Their way is not my way but that’s easy for me to say because I wasn’t brought up in that faith.
As an outsider, I think Pope Francis has done a lot to modernize the Church’s position and I hope he can find ways to do more. I won’t bash him for this ruling even if it’s obviously disappointing. The Church’s way of thinking about sex and marriage is nearly set in stone and hard to change, but how it treats people is very flexible. Pope Francis understands this and he deserves credit for it.