Death, the final frontier. Or the undiscovered country, as Hamlet (and Shakespeare) once said. The one destination for which medical science spends billions of dollars each year in a vain effort to delay that last lonely trip we all must take.
One might assume that atheists and those of little faith would cringe in terror as the reality of their death approaches, grasping at every opportunity science has to offer to extend their pitiful and miserable lives. One might also assume that those of great religious belief, the true defenders of the faith, those for whom God had a plan so to speak, and who submitted to his will in all things, would resist the impulse to aggressively delay their imminent entrance into the Kingdom of heaven, full, as they are, in the certain knowledge that soon they would be sitting at the right hand of God receiving their just reward. One might assume such things, but then, it seems one would be wrong, and wrong in a big way:
People with strong religious beliefs appear to want doctors to do everything they can to keep them alive as death approaches, a US study suggests. […]
Those who regularly prayed were more than three times more likely to receive intensive life-prolonging care than those who relied least on religion. […]
The researchers from the Dana-Faber Cancer Institute found these people were the least likely to have filled in a “do not resuscitate” order.
As well as receiving resuscitation, they were much more likely to be placed on mechanical ventilation in the last few days of life.
A fascinating result, and one that at first glance appears counter-intuitive. Far be it from me to condemn the choices individuals make at the hour of their deaths. That’s a personal decision for each of us and I don’t believe that anyone should have that decision dictated to them by others. But I find the use of extreme measures to extend life by individuals who know they are mortally ill, especially measures that will increase their own torment and pain, and the mental anguish of their friends and family, personally curious. That so many of those who profess the greatest religious faith choose so often to avail themselves of such measures is a telling statistic.
Here is my supposition, or hypothesis, as it were, to explan these results. I suspect that fear is the primary motivator in these cases. For those not counted among the faithful, the fear is of a prolonged and painful death which would extend their own agony and the agony of those who care about them.
For those, however who profess the religion most strongly, who wear it on their sleeve, there is a different kind of fear. Fear of what will happen to them in the afterlife. The fear that they haven’t been faithful enough, haven’t prayed enough, had too many wicked thoughts, to be granted the grace of god. Fear, literally of hell. For not every person who prays constantly, not every person who declares that Jesus will save you just as he has saved them, is truly certain of that salvation. Many deeply religious people, and by that I mean individuals who by all appearances are extremely pious, going to church regularly, praying regularly, and so forth, are actually, in my opinion deeply insecure individuals, filled with doubt. Not all, but a significant number of them.
I saw it in my own grandmother whose last years on earth were a torment to her, not only from the physical suffering she endured, but also from the psychological suffering that her fear of hell and damnation created within her. For traditional Christian religion in America offers us not only eternal salvation, but it also promises us eternal damnation in a fiery burning pit of hell where we shall be tortured forever for not having enough faith. Just watch any televangelist on TV and you will see that sooner or later the conversation shifts from the “miracle of Jesus’ sacrifice” and his “gift of eternal life” to the horrors that await those who fail to fully or properly accept him as their personal savior and Lord. My Grandmother watched those televized preachers incessantly the last few years of her life, and sent them money, money she couldn’t really afford to send, because at her core, she was deeply afraid of what death would bring for her. She wasn’t sure her faith was strong enough. She doubted herself and the life she had led and the many sins she had committed in her lifetime (and “sin” is such an easy thing to find in oneself if one is taught long and enough where to look for it).
But that’s just my theory. Personally, my own religious views have shifted from those that my grandmother would have recognized as true and correct to a less certain, but I hope, a more compassionate and open spirituality, which focuses on what I do for others in this life. I have fallen away, one could say, from that old time religion which forces its proponents to condemn others for their sins and praises to (forgive me for what follows) high heaven the superior moral virtues of their own faith, while attacking the faith or lack of faith of those who do not belong to their church or profess their beliefs. Am I afraid of death? Yes, but less so the older I get. I was far more terrified of it when I was young and a “devout” Christian (of the Lutheran persuasion). Back then I dreamed of hell, and punished myself with excessive guilt for my sins on a regular basis.
Still, I could be wrong. Perhaps the faithful choose to take advantage of the advances of medical science to extend their terminally ill lives with painful and extreme procedures for other reasons that are beyond my ken to fathom. I can’t think of any that make sense to me, but I don’t discount the possibility. Yet, if I truly had no doubt about my God and my salvation and my reward in paradise which that faith justifies, I don’t think I would choose to prolong my miserable existence when heaven’s gate is there waiting to be opened for me. I don’t think a loving Jesus would require that sort of sacrifice from his followers at the end of their days. I wonder, therefore, why so many of them seem to think that they should extend their pain and suffering when it serves no purpose. It makes no sense to me.
Unless, that faith is less certain than they proclaim.
Puts a whole new spin on “right to life”, doesn’t it?
I wonder what the economic impact of medical Euthanasia and the right to self-terminate would be then? I’ve been convinced of the need for social reasons. A smaller market for all those ridiculously expensive tubes and devices that give so little quality of life in exchange for your children and their children. Someone want a graduate thesis?
I just can’t figure out the logistics of Heaven so have signed a DNR, joined the Neptune Society, told family to spread ashes with wildflower seeds in spring and advised my spirit that the here and now is all its got. Heaven is sure Hell as I’ve heard it described so no thanks.
albert king and “little” milton campbell
everybody wants to go to heaven (1970)
it’s not the destination that scares the bejeezus out of people, it’s the trip.
Booman Tribune ~ Death Be Not Proud
Lol! that can be a real bumpy ride.
I think you’re right that fear is the motivating factor, but I suspect that what’s going on here is a matter of “correlation, not causation”. I suspect that in many cases the reason (some) people become overly religious is an excessive fear of death – why else the PMD focus on the “Rapture” (which they seem to think of as a way to avoid death). So for (some of) the religious, religion is not a comfort in dealing with death, it’s a way to avoid thinking realistically about it; and therefore those are also the ones who go to great lengths to delay it.
The fact that many religious movements have focused on making death as scary as possible (“Sinners in the Hand of an Angry God”) is not a coincidence, it’s a means of control.
I think you’re right on with that. People cling to religion because they’re afraid, with death being one of the bigger fears.
I’m nonreligious. I plan to commit suicide when I am too old or infirm to care for myself. I’m not eager to die, but neither am I afraid of death. Death is easy, so easy, in fact, that you have to work pretty hard to avoid it. It’s living that’s hard. The prospect of living through the next thirty or forty years that I can statistically expect to live creates a lot more anxiety in me than the prospect of being hit by a bus tomorrow.
Believe me death is not easy. It does not send you a memo in the morning that says, today is the day you should pull the trigger, walk out to end of the iceberg or go for a long swim. Often as naught, you may put it off until tomorrow, hoping for one more sunrise, another hug from a grandchild or just a smile from a friend.
I used to think I would simply pull the trigger one day. I was naive.
I think you are missing an important dynamic.
Take the Roman Catholic Church’s position on suicide. Suicide is considered a horrible sin by the Church – and not just because you can never receive absolution for it before you’re thrown into hell. You’re throwing away the “greatest gift God gave you”, your life.
I think that idea has infested much of Christianity, and even though most Christian religions have rejected the idea that you need absolution for your sins, they still consider suicide to be pretty heinous.
So consider the dividing line between “suicide” and “letting myself die”. It’s a blurry line. And if you’re the type of person who likes your morality black and white, that shade of grey is going to put you into the suicide camp even if it’s something like a DNR.
So yeah, there’s some fear of the unknown there. Especially given that I think most Christians seem to be pretty damn insecure in their own faith and constantly need the reassurance of the community around them that they’re making the “right” decision by sticking with it (a really annoying dynamic that has infested our politics). But there’s also a fear that by letting yourself die you’re committing some kind of additional offense towards God. So why risk it? Why not just have them do everything they can just to be on the safe side?
My Catholic father in law had that view: that to not pursue every treatment option available for his metastatic cancer was tantamount to suicide.
Personally, I think that a lot of religion imparts a fear of posthumous punishment that leads people to fight death at all costs. But that’s just me.
I do think that fear of punishment is also a huge motivator for a lot of folks. If your faith is weak, you might be thinking that you’ve picked the wrong religion and God is going to punish you for it. If your faith is strong, you’ll probably recognize that you haven’t lived 100% faithfully for your life and no matter what your religion says about “absolution” or “accepting Jesus as your personal Savior” (depending on your flavor of Christianity), there’s always a chance that God will punish you for your inability to stick to the rules – after all, look at what he did to his Chosen People all through the Old Testament when they failed to adhere 100% to his rules.
So yeah, I think that’s there too. No matter how much people want to believe in the Daddy God of Love and Peace and Justice that Jesus preached about, at the back of your head you can’t help but consider that maybe you’re going to run into the version of God that’s more willing to throw you into Hell instead of giving you a hug and telling you it’s all going to be okay.
(Of course, I don’t believe in any of this personally anymore, so for me it’s moot. I’ve asked my wife to have them keep me alive if they think I have a chance of making it through and pull the plug if it looks like I’m going to be a vegetable kept alive only by technology. I’ve got a living will that mostly says the same thing, to the extent that the legalese allows you to say such things.)
honestly i think its the fear that they have been wrong all this time.
i found it paradoxical at first blush too, and after the shock wore off, i decided like steven that most folks cling to absurd forms of religion because of fear of the unknown, and i also had a very religious grandmother who had priest friends over for tea all the time, and if we went on vacation with her, we had to go somewhere there was a catholic church for daily mass within short driving distance, (she didn’t drive).
ironically, at the grand old age of 101, she lost her faith, and passed peacefully notwithstanding, being heartily tired of the exhaustion of being that age.
i saw it as her faith deserting her when she needed it most, a wooden nickel.
because the catholic church has suppressed so many mystery teachings over the centuries, and now deliver all wrapper, no goods.
if she had found tibetan buddhism, she would have found a religion that was a lot more liberal and less guilt-oriented, and most importantly, focussed on a set of skills to navigate the journey beyond this earthly life’s last portal.
so basically fear of extinction, ego annihilation, lights out, is the problem, because baby souls cannot see further than their own needy, conditioned perceptions of reality, founded on deep ignorance.
on reflection, the void is home, where all duality and pride/shame in illusionary separation of identity melts away.
so instead of welcoming their passing as a ‘return to forever’, they delay it as late as possible thinking they can atone or be forgiven only when alive…
every day could be the one where all sins are washed away by faith and courage and in the catholic idea, the last rites, which give you the ‘recommendation’ you need to pay the ferryman, make it past st. peter, or whatever.
nice diary, steven.
Adding a different dimension, there are those, like myself, who believe in reincarnation. Death is just a doorway to another life, so why be afraid or obsessed with delaying the inevitable?
As to Christians and their ungodly fear of a just and vindictive Deity, I think it is just an echo of their own upbringing; probably parents who were too keen on punishment and too lean on love. My parents were gentle and loving folks and I find the idea of an angry God quite repulsive.
My God is a God of joy and kindness and unconditioned love. How could anyone fear such an entity?
Last line—I mean unconditional not unconditioned. Sorry
There seems to be a lot of underlying insecurity and fear in much (not all) of evangelical teaching (and politics). The sense I get is that many evangelicals have absorbed so much teaching on the harsh and uncompromising Judgment of God (intended to scare them into acknowledging their own sins and accepting God’s forgiveness, Christ’s sacrifice, etc.), that they actually feel threatened when faced with any evidence to the contrary of those teachings. Happy, stable gay couples who raise well-adjusted, happy children. Populations of people living along side them whose religious beliefs are quite different, or who profess no religious beliefs at all, and yet are not suffering, miserable or struggling without the presence of a strong Christian belief structure as a foundation for their morality. Former “sinners” (alcoholics, drug addicts, convicted criminals) who have moved beyond that past without the aid of faith (and appropriate punishment to atone) to lead successful lives at peace with themselves. People whose sexual activities aren’t in line with the abstinence-till-marriage, faithful-forever, no-abortions-ever “ideal” and yet seem unrepentant, even happy, with their lives.
Because the teachings they’ve absorbed leave no room for shades of gray — God is either omnipotent, actively dealing out judgment against sinners and blessings to faithful believers, or God is totally without power in the world. Either ALL the teachings are true, or NONE of them are — or worse, perhaps some are true and some are not, but how then can they KNOW which are true? And they’ve been told that less than perfect belief and faith is like having none at all.
Uncertainty and doubt leave them standing on shifting sand, and they just can’t deal with that. They want certainty. They want justice to be perfect, rules to be unchanging and unconditional, the world to be totally predictable, according to the way they’ve been taught, the way it is in the Bible (except it isn’t, but in search of that sense of certainty in the world, they tend to ignore the inconsistencies there). So the more they can shape the world around them to mirror the reality they are told is the way God wants it to be, the more secure they think they will feel.
But the world isn’t consistent. Justice is imperfect, rules and laws get broken all the time, sometimes the guilty are not punished, and nothing is totally predictable all the time. And when it comes down to actual reality — which becomes harder to deny when one is near the end of one’s life — fear of not doing enough, not being close to the ideal, not having enough faith to counteract the weight of doubt and sin and lack of perfection — fear may well outweigh faith, especially for those who have been told for years that ANY doubt or fear means less than perfect faith, and only perfect faith will save them from an eternity of hell.
There’s another explanation nobody has touched on: religious people are more likely to believe in miracles (in this case, medical ones). Rational people (by which, I only mean people who don’t subscribe to inexplicible, mystical outcomes) don’t. By this reckoning, religious folks really might believe it isn’t their time to die yet, even after all the doctors, and all their nerve endings, have assured them it is.
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Religion is man-made and quite imperfect, the understanding of a creator (=God) is of another dimension. A nice philosophical read – Stephen Hawking, The Big Bang, and God. I cannot find truth in the thesis of fear and death, on the contrary. Someone who believes can find reconciliation in life’s cycle from birth to death. No human can make a judgment of someone’s life, this is the prerogative of the “supreme being”. Do not judge lest ye be judged. A person of faith in a very broad sense including all of the world’s religion, a study shows are less susceptible to stress and illness.
“Science without religion is lame; religion without science is blind.”
Albert Einstein (1879-1955)
"But I will not let myself be reduced to silence."
Not sure the two studies sample from the same population precisely. That’s the trouble with social sciences. They ultimately rely on statistical methods and how one defines and chooses one’s sample population can radically alter the results you get.
I would be very surprised if, amongst these religious extremists who want any and all lifesaving measures to be applied to them, if ‘fear of what may happen to them in the afterlife’ trumps any extreme pain they currently endure.
In these matters, people’s fear is usually much more centered around corporal suffering than it is of death itself. Sure the fear of the unknown and the angst of a guilty life contribute to the overall fear. But these fears are deliberately inculcated by religion into the flock, and as a result these fears are so personal for the zealots that they’re usually, literally, unable to even consider the suffering of loved ones when choosing to prolong their life this way.
But their own corporal suffering, massive and unrelievable pain, this is so personal all on it’s own that it pretty much trumps everything else, for zealots and for everyone else except a few crazies here and there. Religious dogma typically fails to prevail in the face of such massive pain.
Myself, Im in the 2d month of my 6th year back from the dead from a heart attack that left me dead for between 11 and 13 minutes. During the several months in the hospital, (most of which I don’t remember), all manner of lifesaving things were done on my behalf and I was none the wiser. Even the doctors and nurses thought I was a goner any day, but went through all the motions anyway. And, I was extremely fortunate in defying the odds and recovering enough that today I am able to get around and know who I am.
As grand as all that is, and as grateful I am to be here today, I recognize that were another big heart attack or any other serious thing on that scale to strike me, there’s virtually no chance I’d survive unless maybe as an immobile stroke victim on permanent life support. So, not wishing to be a burden on my friends and loved ones should such a thing happen, not even wanting to burden anyone I know with having to even make a decision about whether to care for me in that state or not, I have a ‘Do Not Resuscitate’ (DNR) order and a ‘Living Will’ with all the appropriate ‘pull the plug’ language.
Whether there is a God or not is irrelevant to me in this. I’ve never known any meaningful human value that required a God or a religious context in order for it to be legitimate, and in this case, the human value I observe is the one of simple respect and love for my fellow man in an unselfish way. Gratitude has come to dominate the landscape of my life in profound ways these last several years, and because of it, and because I enjoy being alive the way I am, I do all that I can as far as eating right and exercising and getting the medications right. But if I was to detour off into ‘persistent vegetative state’ territory, or ‘completely helpless and unable to care for myself or communicate’ stroke territory, why would I want to inflict myself on a loved one in that condition, let alone endure in that state myself? It’s just way too selfish for me. I feel sorry for many of the religious zealots I’ve met who are in extreme situations healthwise because they are almost all roiled by inner conflict and dissonance. But when there’s massive pain involved, in my admittedly limited experience, I have yet to encounter a single religious zealot who chooses stopgap life extension measures when the pain cannot be eliminated.
Just to let you know I read this. I’m glad you are still among us. No, make that very happy. A very thoughtful comment, too. Made me think anyway.
Hey Steven D, Thanks for the note of acknowledgement.
Before I got a bit long winded and veered off into more of my own personal saga, I’d meant to remark also that, in my experience, those with the loudest voices proclaimoing their piety and faith are usuallythe ones whose faint is least secure. This kind of ‘shaky faith’, combined with the aggressive declaiming of such folks, argues that the ‘fear of what might await them in the afterlife’ may in fact be the prime motivator for them wanting to cling to every tube and drug and machine in a desperate asttempt to remain corporally attacked to life. But even these folks, I suspect that when faced with huge pain in the here and now, if thast pain can’t be completely suppressed, they willingly choose to die also.
(I am personally very fortunate that despite my own odyssey I haven’t experienced the kind of pain I’m talking about here, or if I did I was so drugged up that I have no memory of it. But I have had any number of friends who have had to deal with such things, and it is really heart-wrenching.)